Lili75 skroz si u pravu kad kažeš da je lakše o tome pisati i pričati, posebno onima koji nisu išle u postupak donacije, nego prave životne okolnosti i situacije.

No ovdje nije samo dijete u pitanju niti roditelji tog djeteta (potom mislim na LaruLanu kao roditelj - jedini ili par ako su kao par išli na donaciju) nego cjelokupna konstelacija.

Evo s jedne stranice na engleskom zašto je otvorenost korisna i bitna:

Being open with family, friends and others

Is openness right for us?

Openness about donor conception is now widely accepted by counsellors, psychologists and those with expertise in the welfare of families as being important for the long-term well-being of children and happy, healthy relationships in families. Being open -

  • Puts honesty at the heart of family relationships
  • Is respectful of donor conceived children/people as individuals in their own right
  • Allows donor conceived people to make choices about their lives
  • Allows donor conceived children to learn about aspects of their history, integrate the knowledge as they grow up and accept their story without shock or distress
  • Means that significant differences between a child and parent (in looks, talents etc.) can be easily explained. Some DC adults have thought they must be adopted or the result of an affair by their mother.
  • Means that a true medical history (or lack of it) can be given to doctors, making diagnosis and treatment of medical conditions more accurate. It also removes anxiety about the inheritance of disorders from the non-genetic parent
  • Does not mean that children will reject their non-genetic parent.


ima kao što rekoh hrpa literature na tu temu, mi u HR stojimo na samom početku ove teme......